top of page

How to Take Better Selfies: A 30-Day Challenge to Boost Confidence

Forget "cute" camera shyness – by 40, it's a roadblock to capturing life's moments. Birthday photos become a graveyard of deleted faces, each click a reminder of experiences you weren't fully present for.

The Hidden Cost of Camera Shyness

That's where I found myself at 40. I was always the one missing from group photos, hiding behind forced smiles in birthday pictures. Here's the kicker: it wasn't vanity. It was a deeper issue.  The face staring back from photos was a stranger. Sure, I'd seen myself in the mirror countless times, but on autopilot. In a camera's lens, under different light, a new face emerged. A face that held the stories etched around my eyes, the laughter lines crinkling at the corners of my mouth – a map of a life lived. Yet, it was a face I barely recognized.

This was a fundamental disconnect.  Despite years of looking at myself, I didn't truly know my own face. Millions of us struggle with this, bombarded by unrealistic beauty standards and the pressure of the digital world.

Ready to ditch the awkward posing and show up authentically in your photos?


I Stopped Deleting My Self(ies)

But there's a way out. Inspired by self-acceptance books like "No More Bad Photos," I decided to reclaim my narrative, one click at a time.

Armed with a tripod and my phone, I embarked on a 30-day self-portrait challenge. Forget achieving Instagram perfection. This was about staring down my reflection, dissecting the discomfort, and understanding why the camera made me feel so awkward.

The first clicks were confronting. Every image felt like a harsh spotlight on my perceived flaws. Maybe my nose, which seemed perfectly fine in the mirror, suddenly looked larger on camera thanks to the way the lens distorted things up close. Perhaps the lighting accentuated a minor wrinkle I'd never noticed before. The angle of the camera might have made my chin look pointier than usual.

It was a shock to see these familiar features appear different, highlighting the disconnect between how we see ourselves and how a camera captures us. But here's the thing:  This initial discomfort was crucial. Every deleted photo in the past wasn't just hiding a bad picture, it was hiding from a chance to truly know myself. Hitting "delete" was running away from the solution, not towards it.

The Power of Vulnerability for Confident Self-Portraits

With each day of the challenge, though, something shifted. As I continued taking self-portraits, I embraced the vulnerability. I stopped fighting, trying to control my image in the frame. I just let it be, and the power came out – the parts I was keeping a damper on burst forth. A genuine smile, unforced and unrehearsed, emerged. The crinkles around my eyes deepened, telling a truer story of laughter and life's experiences.

This journey wasn't just about self-acceptance, it was about rediscovering the joy of being captured in a moment. The candid smile caught mid-conversation, the messy-haired laughter after a jog – these unfiltered snapshots became a celebration of life, not a critique of my appearance.

how to take better selfies and feel confident in photos.

Join the No More Bad Photos Movement

And that's the beauty of this challenge. It's about vulnerability. It's about stepping out of the shadows and saying, "Here I am, in all my realness." It's about reclaiming your place in the photo album of your life.


It's 2024 Time Take Your Own Photos.

Are you ready to join a movement?  No More Bad Photos is more than a course, it's a community shifting perspectives on self-image. People like Kelly McIntee found freedom to "be lost with myself in the moment," capturing her true essence. Michelle Mundy discovered the power of showing up authentically, no longer afraid of the camera. Laurel Collins embraced the "Self Portrait Method" to see herself with more appreciation, finding peace through the process. Even for those struggling with body image issues, like Laurel Colins, this method has been empowering, offering a new perspective.

Reclaim your narrative through self-portraits? Join the No More Bad Photos movement and start your 30-day self-portrait challenge on April 15th! Spots are limited, so sign up today! And if you're reading this after the challenge has ended there is always another in the works and plenty of support inside the community once you enroll in the course.

Key Takeaway's:

  • Camera shyness can prevent you from capturing life's moments and fully experiencing them. You might find yourself hiding behind forced smiles or deleting photos because you don't like how you look.

  • This disconnect between how we see ourselves and how cameras capture us is common. Unrealistic beauty standards and the pressure of the digital world can make us feel self-conscious.

  • Embrace the vulnerability of self-portraits! A 30-day self-portrait challenge can help you confront your discomfort and learn to see your own beauty in a new light.

  • Don't be afraid to let go of the need for perfection. Authentic self-portraits capture genuine smiles, laughter lines, and the stories etched on your face.


bottom of page